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Are You Being Abused?

Have your friends or family every warned you about your partner or become concerned about your safety? Domestic violence crosses all demographic, social and educational boundaries.

Do you

  • Apologize all the time?
  • Willingly accept the blame for everything that goes wrong in your relationship?
  • “Walk on egg shells”, watching every word you say?
  • Rehearse what you will say to your partner to avoid triggering a reaction?
  • Cry more than you used to?
  • Hide your feelings, especially anger?
  • Constantly try to figure out how to get your partner’s approval?
  • Give up interests, activities, and people that were once important to you?
  • Hold yourself back in your educational or vocational advancement?
  • Constantly excuse your partner’s behavior to yourself or others?
  • Find excuses not to leave the house?

Does your partner

  • Act jealous or possessive toward you?
  • Isolate you from your family or friends?
  • Check up on you?
  • Display a quick temper or extreme mood swings?
  • Become hypersensitive to criticism or perceived criticism?
  • Blame others?
  • Refuse to discuss, negotiate, and compromise?
  • Believe in stereotyped sex roles?
  • Always have to be in control?
  • Manipulate you?
  • Have unrealistic expectations of you or the relationship?
  • Get too serious too fast?
  • Refuse to accept breaking up?
  • Abuse drugs, alcohol, or other mood-altering substances?
  • Pressure you to use/abuse alcohol or drugs?
  • Show little respect for the opposite sex?
  • Pressure you for sex?
  • Mistreat animals or children?
  • Have a history of bad relationships?
  • Scare or threaten you or others?
  • Have a history of fighting?
  • Own or use weapons or display them to back up threats?
  • Break or strike objects?
  • Become violent with you or others?
If you answered yes to even one question, you could be in danger.
Questions? Call SafeHaven’s 24-Hour Hotline: 1-877-701-SAFE(7233) or National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
All calls are confidential.