Do you

• Apologize all the time?
• Willingly accept the blame for everything that goes wrong in your relationship?
• “Walk on egg shells”, watching every word you say?
• Rehearse what you will say to your partner to avoid triggering a reaction?
• Cry more than you used to?
• Hide your feelings, especially anger?
• Constantly try to figure out how to get your partner’s approval?
• Give up interests, activities, and people that were once important to you?
• Hold yourself back in your educational or vocational advancement?
• Constantly excuse your partner’s behavior to yourself or others?
• Find excuses not to leave the house?

Does your partner

• Act jealous or possessive toward you?
• Isolate you from your family or friends?
• Check up on you?
• Display a quick temper or extreme mood swings?
• Become hypersensitive to criticism or perceived criticism?
• Blame others?
• Refuse to discuss, negotiate, and compromise?
• Believe in stereotyped sex roles?
• Always have to be in control?
• Manipulate you?
• Have unrealistic expectations of you or the relationship?
• Get too serious too fast?
• Refuse to accept breaking up?
• Abuse drugs, alcohol, or other mood-altering substances?
• Pressure you to use/abuse alcohol or drugs?
• Show little respect for the opposite sex?
• Pressure you for sex?
• Mistreat animals or children?
• Have a history of bad relationships?
• Scare or threaten you or others?
• Have a history of fighting?
• Own or use weapons or display them to back up threats?
• Break or strike objects?
• Become violent with you or others?

If you answered yes to even one question, you could be in danger.