Signs of Abuse


  • Apologize all the time?
  • Willingly accept the blame for everything that goes wrong in your relationship?
  • “Walk on eggshells”, watching every word you say?
  • Rehearse what you will say to your partner to avoid triggering a reaction?
  • Cry more than you used to?
  • Hide your feelings, especially anger?
  • Constantly try to figure out how to get your partner’s approval?
  • Give up interests, activities, and people that were once important to you?
  • Constantly excuse your partner’s behavior to yourself or others?


  • Act jealous or possessive toward you?
  • Restrict your contact with your family or friends?
  • Check up on you constantly through emails, phone calls or texting?
  • Blame others?
  • Belittle you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
  • Believe in stereotyped sex roles?
  • Get too serious too fast?
  • Refuse to accept breaking up?
  • Abuse drugs, alcohol, or other mood-altering substances?
  • Pressure you to use/abuse alcohol or drugs?
  • Pressure you for sex?
  • Mistreat animals or children?
  • Scare or threaten you or others?
  • Use or display weapons to back up threats?
  • Break objects, especially those that are important to you?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
  • Threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Take your money, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?

If you answered yes to even one question, you could be in danger.


Call SafeHaven’s 24-Hour Hotline: 1-877-701-SAFE(7233) or National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).  All calls are confidential.

If you are in immediate danger, call 911. All calls are confidential.

Information compiled from the National Domestic Violence Hotline.