Signs of Abuse

What are the warning signs of an abuser?
  • Extreme jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Unpredictability
  • Bad temper
  • Cruelty to animals
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Controlling behavior
  • Antiquated beliefs of gender roles
  • Forced sex
  • Sabotage of birth control methods
  • Blaming the victim for everything
  • Controls finances
  • Abuse of other family members or pets
  • Control of victims appearance
  • Humiliating the victim
  • Harassment of the victim at work

What traits do abusers have in common?
  • An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.
  • An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.
  • An abuser has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world. He or she may appear successful, but internally they feel inadequate.
  • An abuser externalizes the causes of their behavior. They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," or on substance abuse and other factors.
  • An abuser may be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship.

Domestic violence is not limited to the above behaviors. If you have concerns, please contact our 24-hour emergency hotline at 1-877-701-7233. If you are currently in a life-threatening situation, please call 911.